Affirmations For Perfectionism
Overcome perfectionism with gentleness with these examples of positive self talk for perfectionism.
Affirmations for perfectionism
Struggling with perfectionism can be rough. Appearing “perfect” is rewarded in school, the workplace, and in plenty of other facets of life. Perfectionism provides us with the illusion that we can gain acceptance, love, belonging, and safety with hard work. But in the end, perfectionism takes a heavy toll on the body, mind, and soul, and it robs us of an authentic connection with ourselves and others.
Perfectionism has been a long-time struggle for me. I grew up in a household with a mother who used perfectionism as a coping mechanism to deal with an abusive childhood she refused to acknowledge, and she passed both the abuse and the coping mechanism of perfectionism on to me. I could still lower the standard I hold myself to (I definitely consider dealing with perfectionism an ongoing journey), but I cannot describe how freeing it was to finally “give up” and look at the reasons behind my drive for perfection rather than distracting myself with to do lists, tasks, and activities.
On the journey to let go of perfectionism, one of the early things I worked on was changing the way I talk to myself. At first, I thought all the going on about positive self talk was really hokey, but I now understand just how important talking to myself gently is. Affirmations for perfectionism were game changing for me, so below I’ve put together a few examples of positive self talk for perfectionism that I hope will be helpful to you as well!
Examples of positive self talk for perfectionism
Your best positive self talk for perfectionism will be unique to you, but it definitely helps to have some examples to work with, so here are a few affirmations for perfectionism to get you started!
I’m doing a good job.
Being real is better than being perfect.
It’s okay to make mistakes.
My best is good enough.
I’m safe, no one is mad at me.
Rest is good for me.
Sometimes I will get things right and sometimes I will get things wrong. That’s okay.
It’s okay to not be good at something.
This is good enough for what it needs to do.
I can do things I enjoy.
My life is bigger than this task and this moment.
If someone else doesn’t like what I do, that’s okay.
I’m not responsible for keeping everything going.
I can be vulnerable and safe.
I have the tools I need to do this and I know how to use them.
It’s okay to do things slowly and enjoy the process.
I recognize that perfectionism is a way that I try to cope, when I feel the need to be perfect, I welcome that feeling with curiosity and try to understand what brought up this feeling.
It’s okay to ask for help.
I don’t need to be perfect to be loved.
Life is a journey; it’s safe for me to go with the flow.
I release fear, tension, and stress.
Showing my imperfections and vulnerabilities helps to create real connection with others.
I honor my progress.
I deserve rest.
I accept that there are things in life I can’t control; I create safety by connecting with myself, not by controlling the uncontrollable.
Good enough is plenty!
Life is not a race.
I’m doing the best I can and that’s just fine.
I am deserving of my own compassion.
I celebrate my accomplishments.
It’s okay to let other people make their own decisions and experience the consequences of those decisions.
Showing my imperfections and vulnerabilities helps to create an environment where people feel safe to be authentic.
Slow and steady is the best way to make progress.
I’m a normal human being with human needs and human limitations.
I’m good enough the way I am.
I take a deep breathe and pay attention to how my body feels when things get overwhelming.
I’m going to take it easy today.
It’s okay to have fun.
I check in with myself before I say “Yes,” to someone else’s request.
I believe in myself.
I rest when my body needs rest, there will always be things on my list, and rest is important, too.
I am full of strength and beauty.
Life is not a “to do” list.
My value as a person doesn’t come from how productive I am.
I’m allowed to struggle.
Rest is productive.
I can make slow and steady progress and take care of myself.
I trust myself.
I don’t need to anticipate other people’s needs. If someone wants something they can ask for it.
It’s okay to change my plans, being able to adapt is a good thing.
I talk to myself gently, criticizing myself won’t help and I don’t deserve that.
Being authentic is more important than being perfect.
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